Hi! I am Trevor Hooper, a survivor of childhood trauma. I was a victim of child abuse and I used to be homeless. It was out of sheer feelings of shame, guilt and remorse that I couldn’t go back to my home as these events of child abuse had a traumatic impact on my life. Thus, I can totally relate as to how such tragic and unfortunate events can have a long-lasting impact on the lives of affected individuals.
As an individual who has overcome the trauma of child abuse, I feel that it is my duty to help other people who have had similar experiences to come out of such traumatic phase and lead a better life. I have formulated a 12-step recovery process for the childhood trauma survivors. The process had been devised in a manner that would have benefits for multiple groups of people. Not only will the recovery process help the survivor, it will also help those around him to be more welcoming and helpful. Here are the first 5 steps of the process:
Step 1: Understanding That It Is Not Your Mistake
The first thing that any childhood trauma survivor must do is to free himself/herself from the feeling of being responsible for such a state of trauma. It was rather the mistake of the abuser who committed such an unfortunate act. It is not you but the abuser who shall feel bad and be punished. The only sad part is that such offenders usually escape their punishment as only 3% of such abusers are punished worldwide.
Step 2: Feeling of Grief-Related Emotions
Trauma survivors go through a number of grief-related emotions. There are rather 5 stages attached to this phase of experiencing grief related emotions. These include denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Some other emotions that are commonly experienced by such survivors include violation, anger, disgust, lack of trust, confidence, self-love, growth in self-hatred, etc.
However, you must not feel demoralized as these emotions do not define you. You must realize that you are a bigger and better person. Our course will help you in realizing all the good things about yourself and make you feel more confident and secure about your abilities.
Step 3: You’re Not Alone
As a survivor of childhood trauma and abuse, you must come to terms with the fact that it is completely fine to have undergone such a phase in life. It was not your fault and you are not the only one. During this course, we will ensure that you feel welcomed and safe. Our support group will be there at your disposal during every step of your journey with us.
Step 4: Realize That You’re A Good Person
As a part of this course, we also take it upon ourselves to make you feel good about yourself. Our job is not only to help you recover from trauma and forget it, but also to assist you in leading a happier life. Thus, we motivate you to take up a variety of exercises and activities to facilitate the same. An example of the same involves preparing a list of things that you and others find good about you.
Step 5: Realizing That There’s A Life Beyond This Trauma
You must not confine your life and growth to the traumatic phase. You must realize and accept that life has a lot more to offer and you must seize all the opportunities with open hands. During this course, we will assist you in realizing that life has a lot more in store for you and that you must give yourself a second chance.
The Abused Child
The Veil of Secrecy- a practice that has a deterrent spiral effect on human life as well as the world economy.
- Introduction
- Australian Statistics
- Can you recall any past experience when you have been abused by a member of the family or someone from your neighbourhood, i.e. have you been a victim of child abuse?
If the answer is yes, then keep moving forward with this activity in order to seek help from us.
- Is there any instance, past or present, when you have come across feelings like that of shame, guilt, self-hate, etc.? Also, have you felt emotions like anger, violation, suicidal, shame, lack of self-love, hatred, etc.?
- Observe yourself by looking in the mirror and enlist 5 things that you find good about yourself. In case you can’t write down 5, try to write 3 at least. To make it more interesting, ask 3 of your close friends to tell you 5 good things about you as a person. Try to list down the same and then compare the two lists. Finally, prepare a combined list of what you find good about yourself and what others do.
Once you are through with the above-mentioned process, please contact us for further assistance and help.
To know more about the course, email me at trevor.hooper.1104@gmail.com.
